Stumble upon this while browsing through the feeds from Tom Kyte’s blog. The post presents a very good principle of 90-10, on why we just have 10 percent control on our life and 90 percent is just the reaction of what’s happening to us. Depending on how we react on a situation decides how the 90 percent of our days going to be. I have tried to practice restraint while reacting on a situation, all that consciously for last many years. One needs to be restraint before reacting or over reacting on any situation. If something has happened, it has happened. You don’t have any control on reversing it or undoing it. All you can control is how you are going to react on it. If you’re fired, you missed a whole big scenario while programming some module and realized it only after the system is closing to UAT completion, you went overboard criticizing a proposal put forward by your colleague in a team meeting without thinking through all the benefits it might have, and accidentally a coffee cup knocked off on your new cloths by your colleague or even an oversight from you self. All this is bound to happen however careful you are. All you have control on is how you react and move forward from there. Just take things at ease and think in lines of how to mend what has happened without bothering yourself much on what has already happened. For those who find it difficult at first, things do get easy and into your sub-conscious as you move along. Like all the things you want to achieve, even this requires commitment and a streak of conscious attempts to practice this for some time before it gets in your blood.
I value the thoughts put forward by the author. Who does not know that over reacting or being short tampered is bad? However at times we loose our head and end up inflicting worst to ourselves. The post in some sense also touches the very old thought of “being positive”. As some one has said, “B+ is not just a blood group”. How true. What ever situation you are in, contemplate it properly before reacting on it. Showering anger on your family members, friends or colleagues or stressing up one self would ultimately affect your own physical, spiritual and social wellbeing.